When we think of a toxic relationship we usually think romantic, but friendships can be toxic as well. While the signs of a toxic friendship are usually clear as day, we choose to ignore them for whatever reason(s). Friendships can often be a bit more complicated than romantic relationships, and harder to let go of. Majority of the time the signs of a toxic friend are overlooked as 'character flaws,' when in reality, you + your friend secretly hate each other.

I’ve definitely had a toxic friend or two in the past, and the red flags were there all along. I was just so pressed for friends at the time, that I ignored them. Of course every situation is different, but the warning signs are usually the same.

Consistency and communication are both very important in a friendship. Falling out with your friend every other week is not healthy. I had a friend who would hang out with me 24/7, and the next minute she would act shady and I wouldn't heard from her in weeks. This went off & on for a few years before I finally realized there was no consistency in our friendship. A genuine friend wants to reach out and see how you're doing. I know we're all adults with busy lives but let's be honest, nobody is that busy to where they can't shoot a text or make a phone call every now and then. One-sided friendships aren't fair; and you shouldn't always be the one to initiate conversation.

Keep an eye out for the envious friends too; you know, the ones who get bitter when you get better. Your friends should be your #1 fans/supporters in whatever goals you are trying to accomplish. When you reach those goals, they should be just as excited as you! When my friends accomplish something, I feel as though I accomplished it as well – that’s how it’s supposed to be. Watch out for the friends who half-ass congratulate you, as well as the friends who bring you down with criticism and harsh words. The purpose of any relationship, whether it be romantic or platonic, is to uplift each other. A friend shouldn't be giving you any kind of criticism that isn’t constructive.

Lastly, understand that time means nothing. Too often we think because we’ve been friends with someone for years that we can’t not be friends… but that’s hardly the case. You have every right to end any friendship you want, whether it’s someone you've known for a week or someone you've known 5 years. Not everyone you form a friendship with will be in your life forever. It’s OK and completely normal to outgrow people!

Overall, a friend is supportive, loyal and always rooting for you to win. A friend is never envious, disloyal, or full of gossip. Pick your friends wisely and remember, time is no measure of true friendship!